Being a Mother- Expectations Vs Reality

Motherhood- Expectations Vs Reality


This is going to be interesting to know for mums about what our expectations are in contrast with what's the reality. What we think we would do and what we end up doing as mums. Strange but it's all real. 

Adjusting to life with a new baby can be challenging and it takes time. If a partner’s expectation is way too different than reality then certainly it's going to be tough. 

But being a mother we always try to meet what is expected out of us no matter how difficult it is at least we all give our best shorts and leave the rest to little munchkins. 

Some days will be great, some bad and there will be terrible days too. So embrace the challenge of new parenthood. The adventurous ride awaits you. 

Let's see, what we think we would do and exactly what we end up doing in the journey of motherhood.


Here are some main aspects of our life showcasing expectations vs the reality of being a mother:


1. Breastfeeding

Expectation: 

Breastfeeding is a common and natural thing so what’s the fuss about it. It’s the baby who needs to draw out milk not me!!! It's not a big deal.

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Reality:

When I first started breastfeeding, it almost felt like my baby is biting on them, my nipples were sore. Also, I never heard about Engorged breasts up until a few days of breastfeeding. How do few women breastfeed for more than a year? Breastfeeding may be natural but it is not easy. Not my cup of tea!!


2. Relationship


Love Relation
love relation
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Expectation: 

Hubby and I will have an even strong relationship. With the baby, we still can go out, travel, eat out and nothing can change the way we are with each other ever. We will always have time for each other no matter what……

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Reality: 

I don’t have time. I need to catch some sleep. Hey, hubby listen “It's not that easy to go out just like this, I need to put a lot of stuff in the baby bag”. Are we running out of nappies? Is the pram ready? Is everything sterilized? Let's pack some extra formula milk. Have you set up an appointment for the regular health check-up for our little one??


3. Parenting

Motherhood
            Parenting is a lot of hard work
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Expectation: 

I can be the supermom. I have been always good with kids you know. I can maintain my career, manage my house, and raise a kid. I don’t need much help.

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Reality: 

Oh, God. I need my power nap. It's so tiring. They cry, puke, pee, and keep you awake at night. Being a mom is damn hard work.


4. Getting back to shape

Expectation:

I am going to do a lot of yoga, maintain a strict diet, and drink lots of fluids. Yes, this is the mantra and just like that, I will get back to shape within a few months.

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Reality: 

Oh my word!!! I can't look at my loose and hanging skin of my tummy area with stretch marks on it. I have got stitches down there, I am breastfeeding most of the time in a day. When on earth do I get time for exercise. I rather take a nap and have a nice chocolate dessert at night to uplift my mood a little bit…..


5. Setting bedtime Rules

Expectation: 

I am going to get up early, take shower, make breakfast, get the kids ready on time, run errands, finish my office work on time, clean up make a nice dinner on time, and no matter what put them in bed by 9 pm. Rules are rules.

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Reality:

Bedtime routine is boring. I think the little one is not that sleepy. Let the little one spend some more time with dad. He can go to bed maybe after some time. Now she is refusing to go to bed and fighting sleep. I guess the bedtime is sliding towards 11-12pm.

Bedtime
Bedtime
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Bastien Jaillot

6. Traveling with a baby

Expectation: 

I am going to put the baby to sleep as soon as I get on the plane. If she sleeps through most of the journey she is gonna get up and feel fresh and our trip will be just awesome and fun. 

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Reality:

The fact is a little bit, different buddies! It is not that easy at times traveling with a baby. Most of the time you are going to be concern about feeding, sleep and if you are carrying all the essentials or not. 

Moreover, if they have started crawling or standing with support, they won't care to sit at a place and try to explore all the places they can and irritate fellow passengers.

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7. Photo session

Expectation: 

I will click some really cute pictures of his/her quickly and send them across to family and friends who eagerly wait to see her photos and enjoy them.

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Reality:

No matter how many toys you give them or make funny faces to make them laugh or keep them entertained so that you get that million-dollar smile to be captured in your camera, it is not easy to get nice snap shorts without hard work.


8. Workout

Expectation: 

I will lose extra weight soon after the baby is born or else the fat will stay for longer in my body. I know I am tired to a great extend but I need to keep fit and look perfect like I used to.

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Reality:

To be honest with you, I would love to shed some extra kilos but I have got no time and energy to go to the gym. I can manage to go for a stroll with the baby for now.


9. Self-care

Expectation: 

I have a responsibility now and I understand that I need to take more care of myself because get careless about my health or fall sick, ultimately my baby is going to have a tough time. Therefore, I will have to consider self-care.


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Reality:

Don't know why I often feel anxious when I am away from my little one. I make sure I don't take too long and try to get back to home as soon as possible without wasting time. I can't manage to be carefree and spontaneous as I used to be now.

10. Weekends

Expectation: 

We will have a nice day out with the kiddo. Going to museums or adventure parks sounds fun and exciting.

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Reality:

Can't get up, let me stay a little bit longer in bed at least on weekends. We can make a plan to go out next weekend maybe...


These are few examples of being a mother - expectation vs reality which highlights the reality of motherhood or mom life which most of you can relate with.

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